"How do you cope?"

One of the elders from the church called this afternoon. The usual one, who sometimes unwittingly annoys me. A surprise.

Why a surprise? Because I heard that his wife had passed away earlier this month. Actually it was nice to see his face again, as naturally I thought about him and his wife after hearing the news. Of course he sounded rather low and humble. But glad to see him looking cheered up a bit when he left.

During the conversation, he asked me "How do you cope?" I was gobsmacked for a few seconds. But soon realised that I was in the same club and I was actually a senior to him when it came to "widow(er)hood". Unfortunately there's no miracle potion for coping after your partner's funeral, as far as I know. All I can say is, tomorrow always comes whatever happens today.

Oh, another thing. I really regretted one thing that I told him. I didn't invite him inside my house, because my wee one wasn't well and off school today. I felt bad about it, because the front door is not really a nice to place to take about his wife. So, I stupidly mentioned that I would make him a cup of tea the next time. My goodness, why did I promise such a thing? I don't like to be bothered by unexpected guests, you know...